All relationships are different, because the people involved are individuals and interactions with other people may bring about different things with different people.
Being male and owned by a female is not as common as being female and being owned by a male, unless it is one of the world's best kept secrets.
Being me and being owned by MT is probably different to other female led O/p relationships. I do not think there is very much about me that is 'typical' and there definitely isn't anything typical about MT.
I thought it might be interesting to write about what might be some of the main differences between myself being owned by MT, and a female being owned by a male. In order to make some comparisons I will unfortunately have to make some generalisations, of course these may be way off beam as to the reality of some peoples relationships. I apologise in advance, but for the sake of identifying potential differences it is necessary.
I would also like to clearly state, I am trying to identify differences from my perspective. I am certain there are a myriad of things that female slaves endure that I do not have to because I am male. It is the differences I am interested in, not the degree of difficulty (invisible slave ink) the tyrants all make us suffer.
1. A good female slave is generally considered a desirable asset and someone who is admired for her devotion, a male slave is generally considered to be a downtrodden, pathetic, useless apology of the male species.
2. My childhood started in the mid fifties, I was a child of a very traditional marriage of that time. Women stayed at home to bring up the children and do all the housewife chores and the men went to work. Women did predominantly what the men told them to. This was my upbringing, and to be honest was how I lived my life pre-MT, so to sudden find myself as a slave to a hyper dominant female goes totally against my life before. Also, we were very much taught to respect our elders, and I am 17 years senior in age to MT, yet another sting.
3. As a generalisation, I believe some male owners may hold back physically a little (or in some cases a lot) because their slave is female and not as strong as them physically. There may also be some inherent self control based on protocol ie you don't beat women,. Being male, there is probably a bit more of a 'he can take it, he's a man after all' and men are used to fighting etc so must be able to handle it. Fortunately, MT does hold back to a degree too (though you would not believe it until you have seen her in real life action), but I have to take an awful lot of pain. She is extremely sadistic.
4. Some male slaves may not get used physically in the same way as others. If a male owner decides to fuck his slave she takes what he gives her in terms of size and his ability to perform, repeat performances may be limited to some extent due to the need to gain/ maintain an erection. When in that mood, MT can choose what size appendage to use on me with her strap on, this means life can be excruciating. Additionally, the duration is not dependent upon physical ability to gain or maintain an erection, the fucking things never go down, not even after the 30th orgasm. And that's just one weapon in her huge arsenal of sexual depravity. Is it wrong to call your owner a depraved nympho?
5. I go to work, just like a traditional male, but I am not allowed to spend the money how I want, I do not have control and have to ask to spend money. This is very antithetical to my former life or upbringing, where women were handed out spending money and men maintained great control.
6. There seem to be some female slaves (not all I know, don't kill me) who may be expected to excel in one or more areas. As a male slave I am expected to excel in what feels like just about every area. I have to provide good money, drive everywhere, pay the bills, keep the books, provide protection when necessary, clean and maintain the house, garden and car, decorate, carry out endless repairs and household improvements, be her personal slut in the bedroom well actually anywhere, cook, provide personal services, act as her PA for whatever project she's on at any moment (and the scope of her projects can be huge).... basically if your bloke does it I do it, and if your wife does it I do it. No wonder I'm always tired.
7. Submission in kinky-public; if you are a girl and are made to carry out a submissive act or sex act with another female virtually everyone around will find this totally acceptable as well as erotic. If you are male and have to do the same thing, the reaction can be very different. I've had men kicking off at me in all sorts of positions, usually while caged (thus proving they are 'real men'). The issues can greatly increase if it's the dreaded forced bi. Whilst many women enjoy it and find it more than acceptable, and there are always lots of guys who clearly get off on it, there is a percentage of males who get pissy to greater or lesser degrees. There is also the very real risk of verbal abuse and/ or physical assault, well if they are really fucking stupid there is. MT usually deals with this in no uncertain terms before it gets to me but suffice to say there probably aren't many men who have to leap up from sucking cock, have a ruck, then get back on with the business in hand.
8. Decision making is another area where I find I am at odds with my upbringing. Not being able to make decisions without consultation and approval is against my nature. I am very much an autocrat and was extremely successful at it...until MT.
9. Physical appearance is another issue. Females are very used to making themselves look nice, presentable, sexy and beautiful etc. My generation of man was brought up to look like a man and act like a man. Hence, being ordered to shave my head, chest, cock, balls etc is very not male in my book. Add to this, eyebrow plucking and nasal and ear hair removal, plus the very occasional wearing of black nail varnish, mascara, eye liner, and fucking glitter when we are going out to some event, its just too much.
10. Sexual performance is another difference, if I am required to provide penetrative sex I have to physically rise to the occasion, no laying back and think of England for me. While usually obviously great, sometimes this is difficult as I may feel tired, not in the mood etc.
The list contains the main areas of differences from my perspective, hopefully reading blogs from the female slaves will give a better insight into the lives of female slaves and how that varies from my own experiences.
Wow, there's a lot here...so here goes. On point #:
ReplyDelete1) I think about this a lot...and IMHO it's because Females are the superior gender so as a domme or a sub...they are just better...more highly respected.
2) The contrast in background and age is actually one of the things that feeds many people.
3) Think this may be an "over" generalization and not as different as you might think.
4) While this is true, I think many male dom's use implements that can keep going and going as well.
5) yup, not in my case, but definitely a difference for most I think.
6) Also true for many I think
7) So true...hence the 100/1 ratio of female sub porn...and why good M/m porn is so hard to find (but it's out there :-)
8) Think this isn't so differential...very gender neutral in my opinion.
9) Wow, this one is RIGHT on, big difference for sure.
10) Not really my wheelhouse...I'll plead ignorance.
I guess my biggest question/concern is your use of the term "tyrants" when speaking of Domme's/Dom's. That word would never enter my mind concerning any woman I've served, regardless of how demanding they may have been. What is the nature of your slavedom...against your will? Just curious, I'd like to understand.
@Hawk, thanks for your comments, I will clarify the following :
ReplyDeleteThe word 'tyrants' was just a little joke.
1. I do not believe in female superiority, neither does MT.
3. I don't like generalisations, but, what I witnessed out on the scene over 33 years gave me this view.
8. This is a very personal generational one. I was brought up in an environment where my mother had no say in decisions.
Hope you and your Goddess are well.